It’s great isn’t it, you can pop onto social media feeling a little deflated and low in mood, confidence, or whatever it may be, and immediately receive a jab of inspiration from an energetic, charismatic, top of the range fitness model, bodybuilder or coach.
Many of these people seem untouchable, they’re fit, healthy (so it seems), high in spirits and appear to be the epitome of success (at least from a fitness and performance POV). So whilst you take 5mins to watch and revel in their aesthetics and apparent success, once you close that window and move back into the world of office worker, chippy, plumber or accountant, whatever it is that you do…you get a sudden feeling of inadequacy.
I mean, how are you going to get in that shape when 8 hours of your day is taken up with sitting in your chair or staring at a computer screen? Heck, the majority of your day may be spent wearing yourself out performing arbitrary physical labour that does little for your physique, but ultimately tires you out before the gym!
Remember that this person on the computer screen is only human. Yes they represent the toned, defined and well-muscled individual you are striving to be, BUT, let me assure you that they too have their problems! This shiny new looking person are actually contending with their own issues, and despite having a great physique and bundles of energy and wisdom on screen…this person may be lacking in other areas, remember the old adage that says the physician rarely heals thy self! In other words, this person will also go home to washing up, bills, a job they were supposed to have done last week, and numerous other things that need fixing the same way you do, but like you they might also struggle to get everything done in a day. Despite their apparent unshakeable proficiency, these people aren’t able to perfectly manage every fine detail of their lives either…that’s a guarantee!
These people are only showing you the BEST parts of their personality, they are bottling the good stuff and using it to send a positive message, which is great, but it is NOT the way the real world, their world, nor your world is actually going to be.
So the next time you notice yourself feeling a little low because you can’t live up to the incredibly high standards of the people you see online, remind yourself that this is their highlight reel, they aren’t showing you the bad stuff! It makes sense that they are selective because these people are striving to inspire and motivate you, and the times they forget to take their dog for a walk, fail to visit Grandmother or rarely sit down with their partners because they're in the gym isn't the stuff they want you to see.
My advice to you is don’t let the façade get you down, instead use the motivation and informative content they provide to lift you, use it to direct and educate you, but remember that they will have their problems too, we are all human and each and every one of us have areas that need improvement.
It might just be that your areas for improvement are a little bit different to theirs, and they're in a good position to help you with yours. So embrace it.
Stay positive, stay motivated, and remember the words of the Rabbi who teaches ‘the looking is the finding’, meaning you should search and continue to listen to these educated, successful people online because although you may not want to become them, you may still wish to apply some of their successful traits.
The more you search the more you develop your skills, the more rounded you become and the better equipped you’ll be when it comes to acquiring the body, positive mind-set and attitude you desire.